Having just read a comment about someone who actually went through the process of having a kid by employing stuff like cycle and fertility tracking, scheduling both sex and abstinence, as well as other not-fun stuff, your comment made me think of taking the kink to an extreme, where instead of lots of rambunctious boning, it was a couple nerds doing intense and fruitless science to find the optimal way to impregnate someone that was impossible to impregnate. (Unless they start looking at the mating habits of bedbugs, but thatâs a third, separate, entirely unhinged thing.)
I mean, Iâm pretty sure I know which interpretation you meant. But brains are weird and Iâm sleep deprived.
As someone who isnât going to have kids and doesnât want them, I still get the growing old alone concern.
Itâs not that I would have wanted children to take care of me, but that I donât trust the social safety system in the U.S.
Even if things are going well, itâs still a terrifying proposition. My first job ever was as a dietary aid at a mid-level retirement home, and while some of the people there were thriving (namely the folks who somehow managed to go into the home with their partners), the majority were a study of what happens when the ability to live exceeds the will. It was a formative experience.
Thatâs why Iâm in therapy and desperately scared that between neurodivergence and trauma, that Iâm not going to be one of those really social old people with friends everywhere that care for them and keep them company. Although I think itâs not a given that kids will automatically be there for you as you age, I can see the appeal of doing what you can to hedge your bets. Itâs a terrifying world out there, and we only have each other.
Look into freezing sperm now while youâre young and itâs squirmy and spermy and healthy. Then you can get the snip (or the no-snip method) and when you do want kids you wonât be ruining your sex life with scheduled sessions. She can get inseminated when the ultrasound shows an ovum is waiting and itâll have a better chance of conception. Go in with her if you can and sheâs comfortable with that. Just as you will for the birth.
If you do it when youâre young you get the most years of benefits, and if youâre a couple youâll be saving the cost of pills or IUDs or condoms or whatever over the years. To say nothing about the costs of pregnancy or even just the possible-pregnancy scares and tests.
I think I can live with using condoms to be completely honest. I do intend to get a vasectomy after I either have kids or decide that I donât want them.
It sounds like fun but having gone through it for a couple of years, itâs not. Thereâs times of abstinence and times when itâs all about impregnation, not spontaneity or fun. Sheâs constantly watching her cycle, and every period is extra depressing. And thatâs not counting any infertility treatments like hormones fucking with emotions. Our now-adult offspring are amazing and Iâm glad we did it, but it wasnât just âfuck a lot.â
The woman should be ABLE and ALLOWED to protect herself against pregnancy, yes, but the responsibility isnât all hers. Every unwanted pregnancy starts with sperm. Her ovum was just sitting there, innocently drifting down the fallopian tube, staying inside her body.
Any man who doesnât accept his full responsibility for preventing pregnancy, or for the consequences of a pregnancy occurring, is a shit.
Female-centered methods that are invasive like IUDs or rely on hormones like the Pill have common side effects like intense pain, personality changes, increased stroke and heart attack risk. The only reason women tolerate them is because the consequences of pregnancy are higher for them. The side effects of vasectomy are temporary pain and bruising, and sperm granuloma. Sperm quality diminishes quite slowly and sperm can be frozen beforehand, so itâs still possible to father a wanted child.
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I thought getting a vasectomy would make me more popular than it did. Instead I get âwhy are you telling me thisâ from the lady serving me coffee.
You donât need to explain your fetishes to the barista. Also, they really prefer you add your own âcreamâ to your coffee at home.
Coffee mommy isnât a fetish, itâs a way of life!
This is a Wendyâs. I asked if you want fries.
Oh, Iâd like a phone number. Am I doing creepy customer correctly?
Even better? Vasectomy.
Even better? Gayness đ
You still need a vasectomy or else heâll get boypreggers.
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Holy Hell!
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I canât get pregnant but I still want someone to try real hard
Why?
Iâm willing to risk it.
Having just read a comment about someone who actually went through the process of having a kid by employing stuff like cycle and fertility tracking, scheduling both sex and abstinence, as well as other not-fun stuff, your comment made me think of taking the kink to an extreme, where instead of lots of rambunctious boning, it was a couple nerds doing intense and fruitless science to find the optimal way to impregnate someone that was impossible to impregnate. (Unless they start looking at the mating habits of bedbugs, but thatâs a third, separate, entirely unhinged thing.)
I mean, Iâm pretty sure I know which interpretation you meant. But brains are weird and Iâm sleep deprived.
It was so good when gf was on birth control. But alas side effects and itâs better for her now that she is off it.
You could get a vasectomyâŠ.
My guy I am 23. I kinda want kids at a later date.
âŠâŠ..really?
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âŠâŠ..why?
I dunno. Things might change. I also donât wanna grow old alone.
As someone who isnât going to have kids and doesnât want them, I still get the growing old alone concern.
Itâs not that I would have wanted children to take care of me, but that I donât trust the social safety system in the U.S.
Even if things are going well, itâs still a terrifying proposition. My first job ever was as a dietary aid at a mid-level retirement home, and while some of the people there were thriving (namely the folks who somehow managed to go into the home with their partners), the majority were a study of what happens when the ability to live exceeds the will. It was a formative experience.
Thatâs why Iâm in therapy and desperately scared that between neurodivergence and trauma, that Iâm not going to be one of those really social old people with friends everywhere that care for them and keep them company. Although I think itâs not a given that kids will automatically be there for you as you age, I can see the appeal of doing what you can to hedge your bets. Itâs a terrifying world out there, and we only have each other.
Why are you expecting your kids to be your caretakers?
And what if they move to another country for work? Youâre still growing old alone.
I am not. I just see how much better my grandparents lives are with their kids and grandkids that they get to see often.
Not as alone as if I never had any family. I also have 2 brothers so they might have kids and worse case scenario they remember I exist.
Look into freezing sperm now while youâre young and itâs squirmy and spermy and healthy. Then you can get the snip (or the no-snip method) and when you do want kids you wonât be ruining your sex life with scheduled sessions. She can get inseminated when the ultrasound shows an ovum is waiting and itâll have a better chance of conception. Go in with her if you can and sheâs comfortable with that. Just as you will for the birth.
If you do it when youâre young you get the most years of benefits, and if youâre a couple youâll be saving the cost of pills or IUDs or condoms or whatever over the years. To say nothing about the costs of pregnancy or even just the possible-pregnancy scares and tests.
I think I can live with using condoms to be completely honest. I do intend to get a vasectomy after I either have kids or decide that I donât want them.
Condoms are cool, all the ladies love a man who uses condoms.
âRuining your sex life with scheduled sessionsâ? Oh no I have to fuck a lot, woe is me
It sounds like fun but having gone through it for a couple of years, itâs not. Thereâs times of abstinence and times when itâs all about impregnation, not spontaneity or fun. Sheâs constantly watching her cycle, and every period is extra depressing. And thatâs not counting any infertility treatments like hormones fucking with emotions. Our now-adult offspring are amazing and Iâm glad we did it, but it wasnât just âfuck a lot.â
Wrong! The woman should have the responsibility of preventing children. Itâs her body.
The woman should be ABLE and ALLOWED to protect herself against pregnancy, yes, but the responsibility isnât all hers. Every unwanted pregnancy starts with sperm. Her ovum was just sitting there, innocently drifting down the fallopian tube, staying inside her body.
Any man who doesnât accept his full responsibility for preventing pregnancy, or for the consequences of a pregnancy occurring, is a shit.
Female-centered methods that are invasive like IUDs or rely on hormones like the Pill have common side effects like intense pain, personality changes, increased stroke and heart attack risk. The only reason women tolerate them is because the consequences of pregnancy are higher for them. The side effects of vasectomy are temporary pain and bruising, and sperm granuloma. Sperm quality diminishes quite slowly and sperm can be frozen beforehand, so itâs still possible to father a wanted child.
OhâŠsorry, I thought it was âbreadâ. I just love baguettes.
Reject humanity, return to wheat
God I love bread. Baguettes, brioche, boule, sourdough, rye, wheat, white, focaccia, ciabatta, babka, soda bread⊠Damn now Iâm hungry
Still getting great use out of my vasectomy
join me brothers and get a vasectomy!
Soon to be banned in the states. Childbirth will be a requirement.
Sigh. I guess Iâm gettinâ me malletâŠ..
I had 2 kids and then got a vasectomy. Cream pies for days.
You should use more words than that.
Explicitness never hurts
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In this economy?
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I want to be bred while simultaneously breeding someone else
Long live tubal litigations! đđ